Are kids included in the invite?

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Category : Wedding Help, Wedding Planning

I never really thought about whether or not kids should be invited to our wedding. One thing is for sure, we will have at least one – our son Callum.

At the time of our wedding, Callum will only be 3. It will be a long and tiring day for him. I expect that at some point he may get cranky and most likely will throw one of his almighty tantrums (quite possibly during a moment where silence would be appreciated).

Sure – in an ideal world he would be the perfect little angel that smiles all day long for numerous cameras, doesnt launch his unwanted vegetables at his gran or get hyper on sweets and refuse to go to bed – but at the same time, he is a kid, and so I guess we just have to go with the flow.

With that in mind – it got me to thinking, how does it work with children at weddings?

I mean, as much as I want our closest friends and their family to be there – is it awful if we don’t invite every child we know to our wedding?And if we chose to go down this route – how on earth do we tell our friends and family that their children aren’t invited?

Here are a few suggestions people have had.  Let me know if you have any others or how you dealt with the situation and I will add to the list to help couples in a similar situation.

  • Include a “guest information” leaflet with the invitations stating that it is an adult only event or “Respectfully, an adult occasion”
  • Don’t put “and family” on the invites (although to me this one seems a bit vague!)
  • Wait until they ask and then have the conversation in person – or if you are brave enough have the conversation prior to sending out your invites
  • Blame it on venue restrictions

I guess, as with everything, there are no hard and fast rules. Some may be offended, others relieved to have a kid free day. It would seem that weddings will cause offence to someone at somepoint in the planning and whether we like it or not – it’s all part of the process.

One thing remains though, it is YOUR wedding day, and YOUR special day should be exactly the way YOU want it.


Wedding Make-Up, why go professional?

Category : Wedding Help, Wedding Planning

The lovely Valerie, from Vanda Creative Moments, was kind enough to write a post about why more brides are considering having their make up done professionally on their wedding day. I must admit, I was willing to have a go (not really one for wearing much make up) but, Valerie’s post, is making me think otherwise.

And so, over to you Valerie!

Having make-up applied professionally on your wedding day is becoming one of the necessities for the bride – an affordable luxury. So why should you book one what should you look for in a make-up artist?

  • Training/experience
  • Being a professional make-up artist is more than just being good at ‘doing’ make-up.  A professional will have invested time and money training at the hands of other experts and developing their skills. They will be familiar with different application techniques for various face shapes, colouring and age and will know how to make the best of a person’s features. The professional also needs to be familiar with how different lighting affects the look of make-up.  On a wedding day in particular, a bride can be photographed in many different lighting conditions and the professional will get the right balance for both on and off the camera.

  • Rehearsal
  • Every bride has different make-up preferences. Some love wearing make-up every day while others shy away from it. There is no right or wrong bridal “look”. A bride will want to look like herself at her most radiant whether this means minimal make-up or full-on glamour.

    For peace of mind it is advisable to have a trial before the big day. That way, you can work with the make-up artist to find the style that’s right for you. It can be a good idea to let the make-up artist see you as you would normally wear make-up so she/he can judge the right balance for you. If a trial isn’t possible, a good professional with give an in-depth consultation, often exchanging ideas via email and looking at images on the internet.

  • Insurance/Hygeine
  • A must for both the make-up artist and client, ask your make-up artist if they are fully insured for both public liability and professional indemnity. Hopefully it won’t be needed but should the worst happen you will have some form of security. Affiliation with ABT (Associated Beauty Therapists) or BABTAC (British Association of Beauty Therapy and Cosmetology) are good signs. Good hygiene practices will be standard to avoid spreading infection, as an example disposable mascara wands, spatulas for removing creams/lipstick and several sets of clean brushes will be staples in their kit.

  • Portfolio
  • A professional will take pride in their portfoli, and offer a wide range that demonstrates his/her creative talents.  Look at make-up artists’ websites to see if they have a diverse portfolio of different make-up styles on different skin colours and age groups.

  • Kit
  • A bride can spend a small fortune on looking good on her special day – dress, tiara, shoes, underwear. Your face deserves the best too. This is a day for top-of-the-range cosmetics brands – a treat if you normally use more basic brands and a make-up connoisseur would expect nothing less. Buying all of these for yourself can work out very expensive, and even though you are able to buy them yourself, you may not necessarily know how to use ot apply them in the most flattering way.

  • Rapport
  • Lastly, no matter how good the make-up artist, you have to feel comfortable in their hands. On your wedding day especially you need someone you feel relaxed with, the morning preparations can be a daunting time, therefore knowing that you are in a professionals capable hands can offer great relief. A glowing bride with a happy smile makes for a good start to the day.

    Thanks Valerie!

    If anyone would like any more info, to see Valerie’s portfolio or to book bridal make-up, then please visit Vanda Creative Moments website : www.vandacreativemoments.co.uk


Our Wedding – Update

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Category : Real Weddings, Wedding Help, Wedding Planning

Well, after weeks of waiting to find out about my other halfs job – we have finally been told that he is definately getting laid off.

He finishes up this Friday and the thought is very scary indeed.

With a mortgage and a baby, living on one wage is certainly going to prove challenging, but I know we can do it. We just need to tighten those belts a little bit more – as if mine isn’t tight enough already ;)

The wedding on the other hand.

Well, any further saving is not likely to happen until he can find something else, which hopefully wont be too long. Either that, or we need more cost cutting ideas – so if you have any good’uns, please do pass them on!

And, alternatively if you know anyone looking for a talented graphic designer, or someone very knowledgeable about comic books, then give me a shout!

spider-mouse

Traditional Wedding, or not so much?

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Category : Wedding Planning

I know, from having conversations with my mother – and people of her generation, that there are certain expectations and traditions surrounding a wedding.

For me, as an only child – and in case you forgot, a girl – it seems that the expectation is that I will have a traditional wedding. No questions asked.

Me on the other hand. I’m not too sure. I know what I like, and what I don’t. If it follows tradition, then fair enough. If not, well, then I’m afraid I won’t be changing my mind just to be “traditional”.

Here are a few snippets of conversations that I have encountered of late;

  1. You must wear white, or at least some shade of white.
  2. You should be thin – or at least thinner than you are at present
  3. Flowers.
  4. A real wedding cake is a fruit cake
  5. Include all your family
  6. Be extravagant, because you will only do it once

And so, to set the record straight.

  • I shall be wearing a whiteish wedding dress (did I mention I bought a dress already?), but mum, the purple shoes, are more than likely happening.
  • purple shoes

    Although I do really really really love these by Rachel Simpson. And, I know they would look fabulous with the dress I have;

    eva wedding shoes

  • I do intend to be thinner. I’ve been trying for a while, and standing up in a room full of people is bound to make a good looking girl want to look better (and even us not so perfect ones!)
  • Flowers. Full stop, because there is no discussion. I’m not really a flowery type, but even I have to say – there are some pretty darn good florists out there.
  • Our cake, I’m afraid, will not be so much of a cake and more cakes. I like cupcakes, Chris likes cupcakes, Emma likes making cupcakes. Nuff said.
  • emmas cupcakes

  • The next one is a tricky one. Of course, in an ideal world, I would invite all our family (my mum is one of eight!). But, we don’t live in an ideal world. Chris just got made redundant, and keen to go ahead with the wedding on our chosen date and not lose out on the deposits we have already paid, the only way I can see us managing this is by cutting down the guest list. So, if you don’t get an invite to the full day, please don’t take it personally – sometimes it really is a case of needs must.
  • Being extravagant isn’t really our thing. We really do just want to get married, be married and have our friends and family there to enjoy it with us.

So, it turns out, our wedding may be slightly differnt, with a hint of traditional afterall. Who’d have thought it eh?!

Are you following any traditions or running for the hills when it comes to them?

Stumble On Sundays

Category : DIY Weddings, Wedding Help, Wedding Planning

So, after the success of last weeks post – here are the fabulous people and wedding related things that I have came across this week and wanted to share;

  • CraftyPagan Designs – ideal for a vintage/fairytale themed wedding, check out her vintage style Alice in Wonderland Cones;
  • alice in wonderland favour cones

  • Eco friendly wedding invitations by Artcadia Wedding Stationery – green and goregous!
  • Having a guest book, or a frame for your wedding guests to sign? How about getting a real piece of art to spice it up a little. Get a custom drawing from one of your photos from the lovely folk at Little Musings;
  • personalised drawing

  • Making your own favours could be another way to save some pennies. Tablet, fudge or even cookies are all relatively cheap and easy to make – and why not personalise them like the ones below from Williams Sonoma;
  • Message-in-a-Cookie-Cutters

  • Looking for a nifty little guest book? Small, compact and useful for addresses later on, these guest book (and boxes) by Cut the Cake Designs are fantastic. Lots of different colours to match any theme!
  • Top 10 things your maid of honour should remember
  • Wondering what, if anything, you should carry your stuff in on your wedding day? Check this out from the talented Percyhandmade over at Etsy;
  • bridal clutch bag

  • Not so much of a “cute” wedding cake topper, but a pretty cool cake topper by Bunnywithatoolbelt
  • cake topper giraffe

    Hope you stumble across something useful!

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