I never really thought about whether or not kids should be invited to our wedding. One thing is for sure, we will have at least one – our son Callum.

At the time of our wedding, Callum will only be 3. It will be a long and tiring day for him. I expect that at some point he may get cranky and most likely will throw one of his almighty tantrums (quite possibly during a moment where silence would be appreciated).

Sure – in an ideal world he would be the perfect little angel that smiles all day long for numerous cameras, doesnt launch his unwanted vegetables at his gran or get hyper on sweets and refuse to go to bed – but at the same time, he is a kid, and so I guess we just have to go with the flow.

With that in mind – it got me to thinking, how does it work with children at weddings?

I mean, as much as I want our closest friends and their family to be there – is it awful if we don’t invite every child we know to our wedding?And if we chose to go down this route – how on earth do we tell our friends and family that their children aren’t invited?

Here are a few suggestions people have had.  Let me know if you have any others or how you dealt with the situation and I will add to the list to help couples in a similar situation.

• Include a “guest information” leaflet with the invitations stating that it is an adult only event or “Respectfully, an adult occasion”
• Don’t put “and family” on the invites (although to me this one seems a bit vague!)
• Wait until they ask and then have the conversation in person – or if you are brave enough have the conversation prior to sending out your invites
• Blame it on venue restrictions

I guess, as with everything, there are no hard and fast rules. Some may be offended, others relieved to have a kid free day. It would seem that weddings will cause offence to someone at somepoint in the planning and whether we like it or not – it’s all part of the process.

One thing remains though, it is YOUR wedding day, and YOUR special day should be exactly the way YOU want it.