I know, from having conversations with my mother – and people of her generation, that there are certain expectations and traditions surrounding a wedding.
For me, as an only child – and in case you forgot, a girl – it seems that the expectation is that I will have a traditional wedding. No questions asked.
Me on the other hand. I’m not too sure. I know what I like, and what I don’t. If it follows tradition, then fair enough. If not, well, then I’m afraid I won’t be changing my mind just to be “traditional”.
Here are a few snippets of conversations that I have encountered of late;
- You must wear white, or at least some shade of white.
- You should be thin – or at least thinner than you are at present
- A real wedding cake is a fruit cake
- Include all your family
- Be extravagant, because you will only do it once
And so, to set the record straight.
- I shall be wearing a whiteish wedding dress (did I mention I bought a dress already?), but mum, the purple shoes, are more than likely happening.
- I do intend to be thinner. I’ve been trying for a while, and standing up in a room full of people is bound to make a good looking girl want to look better (and even us not so perfect ones!)
- Flowers. Full stop, because there is no discussion. I’m not really a flowery type, but even I have to say – there are some pretty darn good florists out there.
- Our cake, I’m afraid, will not be so much of a cake and more cakes. I like cupcakes, Chris likes cupcakes, Emma likes making cupcakes. Nuff said.
- The next one is a tricky one. Of course, in an ideal world, I would invite all our family (my mum is one of eight!). But, we don’t live in an ideal world. Chris just got made redundant, and keen to go ahead with the wedding on our chosen date and not lose out on the deposits we have already paid, the only way I can see us managing this is by cutting down the guest list. So, if you don’t get an invite to the full day, please don’t take it personally – sometimes it really is a case of needs must.
- Being extravagant isn’t really our thing. We really do just want to get married, be married and have our friends and family there to enjoy it with us.
Although I do really really really love these by Rachel Simpson. And, I know they would look fabulous with the dress I have;
So, it turns out, our wedding may be slightly differnt, with a hint of traditional afterall. Who’d have thought it eh?!
Are you following any traditions or running for the hills when it comes to them?